Last week was Dave’s birthday so, as he requested, we headed to Chili’s with a friend!
I even got to wear my new “t-shirt dress” (my word…it’s comfy like a t-shirt) that I got on sale at Target.
Seriously, go check out the end of the season sales going on at my favorite store. I got the shirt below for five bucks!
Back to Chili’s, it was a great time relaxing and catching up as well as consuming an amazing meal complete with margaritas and the new peanut butter molton cake. Oh yes.
While I don’t find anything wrong with eating at restaurants, aside from the fact that cooking at home is much cheaper AND I know what’s going into the meals, it’s amazing the way some people think about “forbidden foods.” There was a comment on Facebook about how our “pants must be tight” the next morning. Just from one meal.
Or on Mondays certain people decide they need to do a “detox” from all of the “terrible” eating they did over the weekend. Yes, it’s natural to want to eat a giant bowl of fresh veggies after a few heavy meals, but going on a detox isn’t necessarily the right decision. (If you ask most dietitians, they’d tell you NEVER to “detox.”)
The thing is, sometimes when we are doing our best to be healthy, we label certain foods in our minds as “bad” or “forbidden” and they become a HUGE deal to eat. This could result in binging or devouring a whole restaurant portioned plate full of food (which is usually enough for two or three people) for fear that we won’t be allowed to eat this food again any time soon.
I am being reminded of these habits (that sometimes get away from me due to over-educating myself about food..resulting in “good” food/”bad” food obsessions) with the book Intuitive Eating.
I try to keep a healthy perspective and remind myself that one meal, heck even one day of eating, won’t make or break me. It is okay to eat at restaurants. It is okay to satisfy my sweet tooth, even on a nightly basis. Why? Because a little bit of chocolate (or whatever you want) is better than an episode of binge eating…with both the emotional and physical tolls.
I do try to pair dessert with dinner or some form of protein because I know I don’t like the feeling of the inevitable blood sugar spikes and crashes.
One week I felt like eating dessert with breakfast. I noticed that the cookie bars were delicious, satisfying and I had no sweet cravings later in the day.
When we take these foods off of their “forbidden” pedestals, we can be much more relaxed when we are eating in general.
Especially eating at restaurants with friends, which should be relaxed and fun in the first place! We will be able to order what sounds good, to fully enjoy the flavors and to stop when we are satisfied.
We won’t stuff ourselves to the point of discomfort or feel extreme food guilt. I often feel left out of the whole “Oh em gee I am SO STUFFED” conversations, but that’s good, right?
Dave and I stopped at Cold Stone creamery after lunch and a shopping trip on Sunday. We sat outside to eat and share a cake batter cup with cookie dough and health bar. It was perfect. And guilt-free.
Also remember that with restaurant food, it’s okay to take some home to enjoy the next day. You don’t have to eat it all at the restaurant! I like to add veggies or something fresh and different to leftovers.
|I added spinach to the Chili’s taco with a side of carrots and hummus|
If you look at all of this restaurant food and dessert and get a nervous feeling in your stomach, chances are that you might have some food issues that need to be addressed.
It won’t be instant, but if you stop forbidding yourself from eating certain foods, you will slowly be able to trust yourself and be able to listen to your body’s hunger and full signals.
This is only one part of the puzzle…stay tuned for the next parts of my Intuitive Eating or grab the book yourself from any of the links on this page.
Aaaand speaking of delicious food…head over to my Justin’s Nut Butter raffle supporting Girls on the Run!
Do you have any “forbidden” foods?
Have you read Intuitive Eating? What did you think?
Linking up to Jenn for another awesome WIAW (What I Ate Wednesday) party!